I entreated 20-16 with ALL the sparkle, ambition and drive. I was coming for everything they said I could have. I wanted brand grown, mo’ YouTube videos and ALL the brand deals. I was sending emails, scheduling coffees, planning videos and coming up with idea. I was ready, set, go! Then, reality caved in on me like a ton of bricks. January is often slow. I like to think of it as the Holiday Hangover month. Folks are just returning from the Holidays and trying to get organized themselves. My emails went unanswered, coffee meetings pushed and my pitches are tabled until later, undisclosed dates. Days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months and before I know it, it’s March. Three months in and I’d accomplished nothing.
At this point the depression and anxiety has set in. I’m questioning everything. Am I doing the right thing with my life? Is this good enough? Am I good enough? Is the sky actually blue? The list of questions is a mile long and slowly they’re starting to eat away at my soul. I had to stop the bleeding! I believe this is the part of the story where they tell you to “lean in”. Oh honey was I leaning. I leaned on my nearest and dearest. I was searching for answers. What did I find? Well, I found I wasn’t alone. So many of us are “dealing”. Everyone’s situation is different and our “stuff” comes in a variety of flavors, but at the core we’re all searching for peace, happiness and success.
Now speaking directly to all my entrepreneurs, go getters and world changers… I feel ya! We have big dreams and ambitions. We want to conquer the world, make change and leave an impact. YEA WE DO! But, here’s the deal: none of this happens overnight and that’s ok. Slow and steady growth is a-ok. The world of entrepreneurship can be high pressure, but we have to take ownership of some of that pressure. Release yourself from it and trust in your game plan and the timing of your life.
I was recently asked what advice I have for women on remaining confident in your career despite facing the inherent obstacles. My answer? Obstacles are part of the territory. Embrace them. Once you make peace with the fact that they’re part of the game, you’re better equipped to fight trough them. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Just keep going. Yes and yes, but the other part of that truth is that I had to learn to take a little time for myself. I had to get back to a place where I put myself and my well being above any dream or goal of mine. I’m talking sanity, y’all! We must maintain it. I spent time taking care of me and slowly the clouds started to clear, I found my direction, new inspiration and inner peace. Then, as if the Universe knew, Queen Beyonce dropped a bunch of newness and delivered a new soundtrack for LIFE giving us all the inspirational quotes.
“I’MA KEEP RUNNING ‘CAUSE A WINNER DON’T QUIT ON THEMSELVES!” – Beyonce’s Freedom
Keep running, winners and take care of you because there’s lots of important work to do.
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